W/we all have our story of our discovery of the world of BDSM and this is mine. It was only a few years ago and compared to some I was a late bloomer! Having spent 5 years in retail management after Uni, my day to day was pretty normal. I partied at weekends and had laughs with friends. I paint, so would spend evenings in my art studio and all in all had a pretty ‘normal’ life.
I was with a friend one night having a few drinks, as we had done many times and he went quiet. I asked what was up and he said that he had wanted to tell me something for ages but was embarrassed and unsure how I would react. I thought he was going to say he was gay or something so assured him nothing he could say would change our friendship. He took a breath and asked had I ever heard of BDSM? I said I know people like to be spanked and being tied up, if that was it?? I was kind of right, but that was just the tip of the iceberg. He went on to tell me that sees a Mistress at her Dungeon, she would take control of him, and the time he was with her was called a Session. his sessions were for 2 hours each time and consisted of spanking, breath play, electrics and needles. Other than the spanking he had to explain the others. And a Dungeon?? What?? This was all new!!! When I had thought of a Mistress before now I always thought it was ‘the other woman’, AND in some ways it is. I was really intrigued by what he had told me. Being honest in the past when I had thought of spanking and tying up I had always presumed it was men doing it to women. Hearing it was the other way round had really caught my attention, I have always been quite naturally dominant, with my job, friendships and relationships so this evening was really turning out to be an informative wine night!! It may have the drink talking or my excitement but I asked my friend if he had ever taken anyone to these sessions, like a friend? Like maybe me?? he was a bit taken aback but then W/we laughed how it would be funny for me to assist his Mistress in a session one day. he said he would have to talk to and ask his Mistress. A couple of days later he text me saying it was ok and he told me when his next session was. I booked the day off work and was really looking forward to it though not really knowing what to expect.
It was a Friday lunchtime and I was on my way to ‘The Dungeon’. I had a lot of thoughts going through my head, one being that although I had only learnt of this a few days ago, I thought this would happen at night. I don’t know why? I arrived, parked up, my friend was already there so I followed the instructions on the text of how to get to the front door. I went down some stones steps and knocked on a large metal door, half nerves, half excitement at what I was going to be walking into. The door opened and standing there was his Mistress. Black hair, a black PVC dress, high hells, gorgeous legs and stunning face, I have to admit I had a little girl crush instantly. Guys or clients as I came to learn quickly must be instantly transfixed, as I was, and I was only ‘here to help’. She smiled warmly and introduced herself, she told me that my friend was already in the room and showed me where I could change. Having asked my friend what the dress code was I just wore black leggings top and heels. I didn’t yet, have the vast wardrobe of fabulous outfits I do now!
Having changed I followed the Mistress into a room, there was classical music playing, the main lights were of and red lights lit the room. Wide eyed I looked around at an array of equipment hung up on the walls, sat on shelves and in the corner was a Throne. To my left was my friend knelt down, naked with a collar and lead on. Now I thought I would be a little embarrassed seeing him like that but I wasn’t, it felt natural being there. Throughout the session my friend would respond to anything said to him with “Yes Mistress”, I was in awe of the respect he gave and it was right to. His Mistress was in control and was to be spoken to and obeyed in this manner at all times. What I liked as well was the respect in turn She gave back. Yes She was his superior but She spoke to him in a calm voice, any questions or orders no matter how demanding were said in a leveled voice. It kind of reminded me of my Management skills that I used in work, very rarely did I ever have to raise my voice. Respect is a massive thing! So in this, my first session, I was like the Mistresses apprentice. I followed her guiding, I helped with the spanking, needle play and even ball nailing. I wasn’t phased, just really excited, I swear my eyes were like golf balls wanting to take it all in and not miss anything.
The session came to an end, I had to be somewhere else so left my friend and his Mistress at the Dungeon ensuring I exchanged details with his Mistress. I walked to my car, it was just after 2pm so obviously light and still I felt like I should be in the darkness of night having just had my first experience into this new world. I drove off my mind whirling and a smile on my face.
I contacted the Mistress a few days after the session. I thanked her and said how much I had enjoyed the session, I asked if there was a chance I could come and speak to her about possibly training up for want of a better phrase. We arranged coffee and spoke about A LOT! I did so much research over the next few months, joined the Mistress in sessions, spoke to other Mistresses and basically found my feet. I then quit my career in retail and looked towards my new career in the BDSM world as a Dominatrix and I can honestly say I have never looked back!!!